About Me – My Journey with Narcissistic Abuse

Welcome to my blog.

This is a space where I share my personal journey of healing from narcissistic abuse. My story is one of growing up with a narcissistic father—someone who did everything in his power to destroy my autonomy, undermine my independence, and ensure that I remained dependent and easy to control.

At its core, this blog is about how narcissistic parents manipulate and break down their children for control and dominance. It’s about the long-lasting impact of such abuse and, more importantly, the steps I’ve taken to break free and reclaim my life.

Why I Created This Blog

I started this blog to share my experiences and the strategies that helped me heal. While my perspective comes from having a narcissistic parent, I believe many of the patterns I discuss apply to anyone who has endured narcissistic abuse—whether from a romantic partner, a boss, a friend, or a family member.

That being said, those of us who grew up with narcissistic parents face a unique challenge: we have no reference point for what “normal” is. We were raised in an environment of manipulation, emotional neglect, and toxicity. That dysfunction became our baseline—our version of reality.

The Narcissistic Parent’s “Cave”

Plato’s Allegory of the Cave is a powerful metaphor for the experience of growing up in a narcissistic household. In this allegory, prisoners are chained inside a cave, facing a wall where they see only shadows cast by objects behind them. Since they’ve never seen anything else, they believe those shadows are the entirety of reality. They don’t know that a world beyond the cave exists—a world with light, color, and depth.

This is exactly what happens to children of narcissistic parents. We grow up in an environment of control, fear, and emotional manipulation, believing that this is just how life is. We don’t know that there is another way to live—one where love is unconditional, relationships are built on trust, and people can be kind without ulterior motives.

For me, the first step in healing was realizing that I had been trapped in this “cave” my entire life. I needed to break free and explore a reality beyond what I had been conditioned to accept.

The First Step: Educating Myself

Once I recognized the abuse, I wanted to learn everything I could about narcissism. I started reading books and watching YouTube videos. At first, this was overwhelming. Every ten-minute video would trigger deep emotional pain, forcing me to step away. But I kept going—at my own pace—until I had built a solid understanding of narcissistic abuse and its effects.

One challenge I faced during this process was that many resources online were exploitative. Some YouTube channels seemed more focused on profiting from victims than truly helping them—offering little insight but charging hundreds of dollars for consultations. Fortunately, I found a few genuine, eye-opening resources that truly helped me see the bigger picture.

For anyone beginning their healing journey, I recommend taking it one step at a time. You don’t have to absorb everything at once. Learning about narcissistic abuse can be painful, and it’s important to give yourself space to process those emotions. Over time, the information became easier to digest, and my awareness expanded. I started recognizing narcissistic patterns not just in my father but in people I encountered in everyday life.

The Next Step: Healing

Understanding narcissism was only the first step. The real challenge was healing from the damage it had caused.

This part of my journey took time—months of trial and error—because healing from narcissistic abuse goes far beyond just knowing what happened. It requires retraining your mind, your body, and your automatic survival instincts. It means breaking free from deeply ingrained trauma responses, such as people-pleasing, fawning, or shutting down in moments of stress.

One of the biggest insights I gained was that my reactions to everyday situations weren’t just about the present moment. I was reacting to past trauma. My nervous system had been wired to expect danger, humiliation, or rejection based on childhood experiences.

When I finally understood this, everything clicked. My healing didn’t lie in exposing myself to more social situations or “toughening up”—it lay in going back to my childhood wounds and reparenting myself.

Why This Blog Matters

This realization led me to create this blog—to share my journey and the steps I’ve taken to rebuild my life. If my experiences can help someone else recognize their own struggles and find a path to healing, then this blog has served its purpose.

Recovering from narcissistic abuse is not easy. It takes time, self-compassion, and a willingness to unlearn what we were taught to believe about ourselves. But healing is possible. You are not broken. You are not beyond repair. And you do not have to stay trapped in the cycle of abuse.

I hope the content on this website empowers you and provides the tools and support you need to reclaim your life. You are not alone, and you deserve peace, happiness, and freedom.

Thank you for being here, and I wish you all the best on your journey.