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Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse

What Secure Attachment Actually Is — And Why Never Having It Makes You Vulnerable

May 3, 2026
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If you’ve ever wondered why certain people seem naturally solid in who they are —…

Tom Foster
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Childhood Trauma, Healing, Narcissistic Abuse

How Long Does EMDR Take to Work? An Honest Answer

May 3, 2026
71 Views

Everybody wants that moment that you are healed, free from your trauma. The session that…

Tom Foster
self limiting beliefs staying
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse, Self Esteem

Why Childhood Self Limiting Beliefs Refuse to Update

April 28, 2026
61 Views

There is something deeply strange about holding a belief that your own experience repeatedly contradicts.…

Tom Foster
what to expect from EMDR
Healing, Narcissistic Abuse, Self Esteem

What I Wish I Knew Before Starting Self-Guided EMDR

April 28, 2026
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If you’re about to start self-guided EMDR — or you’re already in it and wondering…

Tom Foster
narcissistic family hierarchy
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse, Self Esteem

Why Survivors of Narcissistic Families Feel Low Status in Social Situations: The Scapegoat Conditioning Explained

April 26, 2026
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There’s a feeling that many survivors of controlling or narcissistic family systems carry into adulthood…

Tom Foster
scapegoat limiting belief
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse, Self Esteem

The Scapegoat Belief That Stops You From Pursuing What You Want

April 26, 2026
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There’s a specific thought pattern that surfaces whenever a scapegoat considers doing something on their…

Tom Foster
everyone gaslights the scapegoat
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse

When Everyone Denies It: How Family Systems Make You Question Your Own Reality

April 26, 2026
107 Views

There’s a particular fear that surfaces in recovery from narcissistic family dynamics that doesn’t get…

Tom Foster
rdr2 manipulation
Frame Control, Narcissistic Abuse

Why Manipulators Leave Certain People Alone (And What Those People Have in Common)

April 21, 2026
51 Views

If you’ve ever watched a manipulative person in action, you might have noticed something interesting.…

Tom Foster
conflict and nervous system
Healing, Narcissistic Abuse, Self Esteem

Frame Control: Why Some Conversations Are About Power Before They’re About Anything Else

April 21, 2026
69 Views

Most people think of difficult conversations in terms of content. What was said. Whether it…

Tom Foster
emdr with therapist
Childhood Trauma, Healing, Narcissistic Abuse

EMDR Therapist or Self-Guided EMDR? Here’s Why the Answer Is Both

April 21, 2026
70 Views

If you’re researching EMDR for trauma recovery, you’ll likely arrive at a question at some…

Tom Foster

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