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Healing, Narcissistic Abuse, Self Esteem

EMDR at Home: Can You Do EMDR Therapy on Yourself?

April 16, 2026
56 Views

One hour a week. That’s what most therapy looks like. One hour, once a week,…

Tom Foster
parents assume wrong
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse

Toxic Families: When Parents Always Assume You Are Wrong

April 15, 2026
54 Views

There is a pattern of parental interaction that is so consistent, so routine, and so…

Tom Foster
unable to say no
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse

Why do I struggle with boundaries: Trained to Abandon Yourself

April 15, 2026
71 Views

When someone looks back across the years and sees the same pattern repeating — going…

Tom Foster
emdr therapy via video calls
Childhood Trauma, Healing, Narcissistic Abuse

Online EMDR vs In-Person EMDR: Does It Actually Matter?

April 15, 2026
53 Views

If you’re dealing with complex trauma or narcissistic abuse, EMDR therapy is one of the…

Tom Foster
Frame Control, Narcissistic Abuse

The Bait and Jab: How Manipulative People Use Softness to Set Up the Attack

April 8, 2026
58 Views

Some manipulative moves are obvious. You can see them coming and you know what they…

Tom Foster
hidden trap in conversations
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse

Curiosity vs Interrogation: Why Some Questions Feel Safe and Others Feel Like a Trap

April 6, 2026
42 Views

Not all questions are equal. Some questions make you feel seen. They open something up.…

Tom Foster
Narcissistic Abuse

Recognizing Narcissistic Patterns in Storytelling: Ghosts of Tsushima

April 3, 2026
47 Views

Sometimes a story hits differently than it should. You’re watching a scene — film, game,…

Tom Foster
co regulation and nervous system
Healing, Narcissistic Abuse

Why Some People Calm Your Nervous System Instantly

March 26, 2026
58 Views

There are some people in whose company something shifts. Not in an obvious, dramatic way.…

Tom Foster
beliefs from narcissistic family systems
Childhood Trauma, Narcissistic Abuse

Why the Family Scapegoat Develops “I Am Destined to Fail” (And Why It Feels True)

March 24, 2026
62 Views

Some beliefs don’t feel like beliefs. They feel like facts — stable, pre-existing, as much…

Tom Foster
needy vs unseen child
Childhood Trauma, Self Esteem

The Difference Between a Needy Child and an Unseen One

March 23, 2026
51 Views

Sometimes the evidence has been there all along. Something shared casually, never looked at closely…

Tom Foster

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